Focus on helping @5 realize that the            '
behavior you want stopped is inappropriate,     '
unfair or unworthy.                             '
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Children have a good, if somewhat immature,     '
sense of what is right and what it wrong.  But, '
often things are right or wrong or sometimes    '
marginal shades of grey.  Casting the inappro-  '
priate behavior firmly in the wrong category,   '
will often eliminated it.                       '
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         STOPPING UNDESIRABLE BEHAVIOR          '
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All children like to have a sense that what they'
do fits the situation or the provocation, as the'
case may be.  You, with your greater range of   '
experience, can often demonstrate how a partic- '
ular behavior does not fit inspite of what      '
@3 thinks.  Don't be hesitant to do so.         '
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Ask yourself:                                   '
  *  What is actually wrong or inappropriate    '
     about this behavior?                       '
  *  What is to best way to communicate that    '
     to @5?                                     '
  *  What behavior would fit better?            '
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